Have you ever overheard a conversation referencing the flavor vanilla, but not in conjunction with ice cream or cake? Chances are if you eavesdropped a little harder you would likely hear other terms and phrases definitely not associated with traditional delicious treats. Kinky sex is just as satisfying and fulfilling as “vanilla sex”, but it can quite frankly be downright intimidating for the uninitiated. Have no fear, my fine, unbound friends, because pornographers like Tristan Taormino are out there working their butts off to offer you informative, sexy guides to help you get in touch with your kinky side. The world of kink and bondage is like a choose your own adventure for adults so never fear if your first look around does not appeal to you.
Recently, one of Taormino’s newest titles, Tristan Taormino’s Guide to Kinky Sex for Couples, was discreetly shipped my way from Adam and Eve, and let me say it was certainly a treat! Although my sexual tastes may vary, I still feel there is so much out there for me (and my partner) to learn. This guide is certainly a great place to start, or connect what I had previously heard and read about with physical demonstrations, as well as couples discussing their relationships with kink.
This guide is set up, like some of Taormino’s other titles, to educate and titillate viewers. The introduction is full of information and ideology, as well as the couples’ own insights into kinky sex and why they love it, which will certainly bring any newbie up to speed. This also serves to demystify that naughty enigma we know as kink; it is a game and can serve to explore one’s inner desires on one’s own terms. If you missed something no need to worry because throughout the DVD Tristan Taormino comes back between each scene to introduce or revisit aspects of kink that will be more specifically featured in scenes to come. We hear a little more from the couples as well. And if you are somewhat reserved or shy about broaching the subject with your partner(s), there are tips a plenty on that subject.
If you and your partner(s) are looking for more action with less interruption I would suggest looking elsewhere, because although you could skip ahead to the sex scenes I believe it is highly recommended that you watch every bit of it, especially coming from a beginner’s perspective. Many of the terms and ideas I was already familiar with, but hearing what others have to say about them, and how they engage them, drives the information home. It might not be a bad idea to have a pen and notepad handy for jotting any inspirations down for further exploration.
Each scene, of which there are four, is quite unique from the others, and features a different aspect of kink/BDSM for viewers to enjoy. First up is Lyla Storm and Danny Wylde in a fun display of sensation play. Some of the tools they utilize were a collar, blindfold, feathers, and massage oil candle. For those unfamiliar with the latter, Tristan cautions viewers, very practically, about what oil in the candles can do to linens and how it can be not so good for genitals, but there are items out there that can be safe for sheets and sensitive bits. I definitely took note of that and appreciated the insight into actual at home use of such a tool.
This scene is one of the three Dom/sub dynamics in the DVD, with Danny Wylde filling the role of the Dominant and Lyla Storm as the submissive, which may not be one of her favorite roles to play. She apparently does not like doing what others tell her to, which she stated before the scene with a laugh. I like to think by the end she became a bit of a convert, given the right partner to take the lead. For the approximately 35 minutes that the scenes goes on for there is a lot going on, but mostly in the beginning. Foreplay seems to be the focus here, which I really enjoyed because beyond that it seemed pretty run of the mill penis-in-vagina action, but it shows that you can have tons of fun with your partner(s) before getting to the so-called main event. Of all the scenes, I took the most notes for later use during this one, like while having your tits slapped an angle to get the most oomph out of it might be with your partner behind you. Or laying on your stomach to masturbate your partner straddling you, which could work for anyone utilizing a phallus during play time. But aside from all that, I just enjoyed the ample amounts of verbal feedback and laughter in the scene. A little, or a lot in this case, of laughing can make intimate times just that much more enjoyable.
The beginning of Adrianna Nicole and Evan Stone‘s scene looks like it belongs on a blooper reel, but it worked so well given the laidback interview and preceding scene. Things get serious pretty quickly, but that is not to say there is not ample enjoyment throughout. One thing that got me right off the bat was the sound quality of this scene. It seems off, but Evan and Adrianna are very quiet to start, and even at certain points within the scene. It becomes very clear that the sound quality is just fine when Adrianna starts giving Evan a blowjob and sucking on his balls. Everything is crystal clear at that point. This scene was hands down one of my favorites. Evan is very intense which juxtaposes interestingly with Adrianna’s more bratty doll persona, and her eye contact is just…wow! I really like that there is so much focus on her face because it is just so damn expressive. I call Adrianna’s role doll-like in this scene because, although Evan runs the show nicely, there is not much vocal command going on, like in the previous scene, so when he wants her in a position he takes her there physically which she follows, but sometimes like a bratty rag doll. If you or your partner tends to be on the quiet side in bed this might appeal to your own sex life. As long as you can read your partner’s intentions well it can work either way. And do not be afraid to grunt, male or female, because Adrianna certainly was not! Vocalizing one’s pleasure is sexy as hell and even women in porn have a wide range of doing so.
So the next scene gave me some hang ups. Not regarding the content itself, but just how to approach it. So far the Dominant roles have been played by male actors, but during this scene Aiden Starr is the Domme to Christian‘s sub. And if you are at all familiar with either actor you are aware that this is an impressive sight to behold. One of my initial notes on the scene read, “tiny woman vs big man–it’s not what you think”. No, it sure is not. Aiden does a fabulous job exerting her dominance over Christian, who in a past life might have been a gladiator of Ancient Rome. And the scene is very person focused, like the others, so the viewer can see how each partner interacts with the other. Their responses to each command and slap are front and center, or artistically off to the side if that be the case.
Given this scene is focusing on a female Dominant and male submissive, the key is to show a woman in the driver’s seat, confidently leading the scene, and Aiden Starr rocked it! She is deadly sexy, but flows with her own emotions, like getting all giddy during an orgasm or calling Christian out about almost coming when he is not supposed to. That particular moment was pretty fun actually. Speaking of Aiden’s orgasms, she has such a wide range of vocalizations, volumes, and her eyes get involved in such a fascinating way. There was a lot of kissing going on in this scene, or it might be more apt to say there was a lot of tongue sucking happening. Either way, this scene was very intriguing, sexy, and enlightening for those viewers out there looking to switch roles in the bedroom.
Closing out the DVD, we have Asa Akira and Derrick Pierce focusing on anal play with the help of some warm-up toys like Ben-wa balls, a paddle, and butt plugs. Of all the couples these two have the best chemistry and, during the interviews, seem to be on similar levels as far as their interests in kinky sex go, which translates very well into the scene. Derrick has a very accommodating, laid back attitude about anal sex, as well as thoroughly getting a kick out of his partner’s responses. I would have to agree with Asa about that stance on anal sex, it definitely puts someone in a better state of mind knowing their partner is not going to freak out at seeing a bit of brown after screwing their butthole. Shit happens, so relax, which is vital for anal sex being as pleasurable as possible. Laughter abounds in this scene, plenty of great eye contact, and boisterous orgasms. It hit me again how crisp and clear the sound is on this DVD while watching this scene when I realized just how many gags, queefs, and ball slaps I was hearing. Sex is not an act that takes place in a vacuum so we should all be well aware of the orchestra that is two bodies slamming together for very pleasurable purposes.
Tristan Taormino’s Guide to Kinky Sex for Couples is a damn spectacular introduction to kink for those lovers who shy on the more vanilla end of the sexual spectrum, although it would be great to see a future edition featuring a more diverse cast of couples. The information is explained very forwardly throughout the DVD and from there any viewer should feel more confident in exploring topics of kink, bondage, and BDSM on their own terms. And if the information is not enough for you there are four hot scenes that will certainly get you in the mood, or at least a new mindset, to explore your kinky side.
You can get your very own copy of Tristan Taormino’s Guide to Kinky Sex for Couples at Adam & Eve, Puckerup.com, or any number of other sex-positive online locations.
Play safe and enjoy!